Update - The Cock Column - "Shower Erections"

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This is an update to The Cock Column - "Shower Erections" in which a guy requested advice about his colleague.

"Thank for your advice. I wanted to update you on what happened recently.

I wasn't really sure what I wanted until you said it for me. I guess I was looking for a bloke to wank with. I'd never really thought about it too much, but I knew I love to watch porn of guys wanking and obviously I was searching for that when I found your blog.
I took your advice and yesterday I took one of my old porn mags into work with me. My heart was pounding all day!
When everyone had left and it was just me and Steve left he mentioned something about picking his girfriend up from work so I thought that would be a missed opportunity. Thankfully he changed his mind.


I put the porn mag on oine of the benches in the locker room, just a few feet down from where we usually get changed after our work out and went back to the gym to find Steve. We had our work out as usual and headed for the lockers.
In all honesty I was expecting Steve to just notice the mag, say it was a bit gross and chuck it out. But I was very pleasantly surprised!


We went into the locker room and started stripping, talking crap. My heart was really racing and I wondered if he'd figure it out. I mist have looked so guilty!
My cock was threatening to give me away too as I could feel it getting hard as I stood there naked while he striped and got his towel from his locker.


I thought he hadn't noticed the mag as we walked toward the showers and I wondered if I should point it out or whether that would be too obvious. So I figured I'd wait until we'd left the showers and if he still didn't see it then I'd mention it.
But thankfully he did!
He grabbed it and made some really crude remarks about a guy jerking off in the locker room, mentioned that maybe it was Colin (the youngest guy in the place who cleans the lockers during the day).


I leaned over his shoulder and watched as he flicked through the mag. Feeling my cock hardening and my heart now really threatening to jump out of my chest!


He threw it back down on the bench and said something about throwing it out after our shower. And I knew it was then or never. I grabbed it, saying I wanted a look too.


I sat on the bench, dropping my towel next to me. Steve sat beside me. My cock was now rigid under the mag as I sat there, and we flicked through the mag.
Secretly I was paying attention to his cock as it became harder. His dick is quite curved, and this was really obvious now he was getting hard. It's one of those dicks that curves downward, and as I watched it from the corer of my eye I saw it twitching as it rose up from his thighs and the foreskin started easing back to show the red lips of his cock head.


I could feel my own cock tapping at back of the mag, and I decided I'd take another leap and start stroking a little.
I lifted the mag and commented about my boner, and he laughed and openly pointed out how hard he was too. I started stroking my cock, pulling my foreskin back, openly displaying my cock for him as I tried to hold the mag so he could see everything.
He copied my movements and I got to see his dick in its completely hard state, with the thick vein across the top of his shaft.
It was really slow and we kept talking about the mag as we sat there stroking.


I don't know why, but it was the most erotic thing I've ever done. And I've done some pretty erotic shit in my time!


We both stroked, watching each other and looking through the mag, until he said he had to cum and went to go somewhere (I don't know where he was planning on going, I guess the toilets).
I told him I was going to cum, but that I would clean it up. I don't know why I said that, probably because he was stood there right in front of me, still stroking his long curved cock and about to leave because he had to come somewhere else!


That was it for me. I watched him stroking, he was at my eye-level, I watched his foreskin sliding back and forth over his shiny cock head slick with precum, and I couldn't hold off any longer. I fired off, watching my cum spurt into the air in front of me, almost hitting my chin. I came a lot, more than I usually do, and as I did Steve began firing too, thick and heavy, but not shooting like I was. I could see his thigh muscles tensed and shaking as the white cum dribbled from the tip of his cock where the folds of foreskin bunched up.

We waited a few moments as the climax subsided, and then we both cleaned our cum off the tiled floor and headed off to the shower.


That was it. An incredible event that has simply changed my life!


I'm now working on arranging a night when we can both watch some porn together, and I've decided I really want to get my hands on that thick curved dick of his!"

The Cock Column - "Shower Erections"

Received by email:

"I'm straight, 27, and I'm engaged to be married.
I've never messed around with another guy before, but I did wank with a mate a few times when I was in my teens. Nothing mutual, just in the same room while we watched porn. I didn't even pay attention to his dick.


Life was great until about three months ago. I work for a Gym and started in admin part-time. It was a great opportunity because I was a member there anyway. I work out about three times a week so it seemed perfect to take the job when it was offered. But three months ago one of the Gym guys left and I was asked to fill in because I know the place well and have done a little mentoring before.


It was another great opportunity, it meant a pay rise, more hours and getting to work out during the day while helping other guys meet their goals too.


I've become really good mates with a guy I work with, Steve. We knew each other anyway of course, but since working on the floor we've become really good mates and we go out for a drink every week and he comes over now and then too.
He has a really hot Girlfriend who gets on really well with my fiance.
Every day at work he's responsible for locking up, and we usually have a good workout when the place is empty. Then we go and have a shower before leaving.


Like I say, I'm engaged and I've never done anything with another guy, but I really look forward to that shower at the end of the shift. I've never really had an interest in cock, other than occasionally enjoying it in straight porn. But Steve is really hung and I can't help staring!
As soon as we get into the locker room and he's stripping off I find myself watching him and literally gawking at his dick. It's not a foot long or anything, I'd guess about 8 inches. He's uncut like me, and while my dick is darker and the skin rougher, his is really pale and totally smooth, It's actually really nice to look at. He has really low balls too, and he shaves them (I've seen him do it!)


Every time we have a shower I feel myself getting hard and stealing glimpses of his dick while we're talking, and I have to face away from him most of the time and think of nasty shit to keep my dick down.
The main thing is that I've seen him get semi-hard almost every time too. I've caught him looking at my dick a few times.
I'm totally confused about what this means. And I don't know what I should do."


I say it quite often, labels are not what they're cracked up to be. Human sexuality is nowhere hear as simple as the three labels.

Guys often get semi-hard in showers and locker rooms, especially after a workout. Even the straightest men get it now and then and it can have little to do with being around other cock. It's probably more to do with the physical exertion and being in the prime physical condition to breed. But, it's also very true that MOST MEN regardless of sexuality, check out other cock when they have the chance. It's a fetish thing, or a comparison thing, or maybe just a taboo thing. Whatever the reason, blokes often look at cock when they strip around each other.

I think the fact that you describe his dick in the way you have shows that your interest is more than just comparison and your arousal more than just physical exertion. You don't say what you'd like from this friendship, but as you've explained that you used to wank with a friend as a teenager, I'd suggest you've let slip that this is something you'd be interested in with him.

It all depends what you want.
If you want to see his dick up-close, want to wank with him, see him cum, or even stroke it for him, all of this is possible with the right attitude and slow progress.
You're already over the first hurdle; you are comfortable being naked (and semi-hard) around each other.
If you want to move this on, I'd suggest that a great way to do it would be to use porn as an entry into some sexual sharing. The next time you're alone at work and about to have your workout, sneak off and place a porn mag on the locker room floor, somewhere not in plain view but somewhere he'll notice, as though a guy has dropped it from his bag. If you're really worried about it being too obvious, buy a cheap bag and fill it with random stuff including a porn mag or two, and leave that in the locker room for your mate to find. He'll think some guy has just forgotten it, and you'll look inside to find a porn mag.

I highly doubt any red-blooded guy would pass up the chance to have a wanking session over some "discovered" porn. The fact that you're so comfortable around each other already is a good sign, and I fully expect that once he's found that porn, he'll be hard and stroking in seconds, and you'll join him.

If you're not hoping to have a wanking buddy friendship with him, there's not much else you can do that you're not already doing. If you're worried about getting hard in front of him in the shower, either try to overcome it the way you have been or simply avoid the showers. If you do, you may find you lose a friend as he'll probably take this sudden distance personally.

There's nothing to be confused about. Just know that the labels are wrong. You can be heterosexual in every other respect and have a fascination for cock. You can have a wife/girlfriend and still have wanking sessions with other guys just for fun, as a bonding thing, competition or just a laugh. It doesn't change who you are, and it certainly doesn't make you any different from the majority of men, only you are willing to abandon the false labels in order to enjoy life as much as possible.

Let me know how this goes!

If you would like advice or you have an issue to explore please email me at luke@b8m8network.com


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The Cock Column - "I'm worried about size"

Received by email...

"I have a straight guy I chat to on the net about wanking and mutual. It's something I wanted to do for a long time.
He's more experienced than I am, and I'm nervous about meeting up with him.
He's suggested we just go for a drink and then either come back to my place or go to his and watch some porn.


Apart from being nervous, I know he has a big dick. And I don't. 
He's talked to me before about one of his mates he wanks with who has a really fat cock too, so I wonder if he's expecting more than he's going to get with me.
I mean, I don't have a micro-penis, it's about 6". But his is about 8", and quite chunky too.
On the plus side, he loves foreskin, and I have more than the average guy in over-hang.
He has seen pictures of my dick, and all comments were very positive, but I just wonder if he thinks it looks bigger than it is."

Okay, so this is a common problem in the traditional heterosexual world, but not usually in male-on-male encounters.

The average cock size when hard is 5.1"–5.9", so you are above average. Not that it really matters.
Generally, men don't give a crap about size when it comes to the guys they're wanking with (or more). It's a titillation to see and experience massive dicks, sure, but that's just sexual greed. It's like looking at a slice of Chocolate cake and knowing it's absolutely yummy, but looking at the whole thing and thinking "wow!"
You're still not going to appreciate the whole thing over and above a slice. Quality over quantity.


Have you misled him in any way?
I'd suggest that if you've made yourself out to be bigger than you are and now want to back-track because he wants to wank with you, you really should own-up.
Just be honest and tell him you fibbed a little when you didn't think you'd ever meet up, but now that you are planning to you didn't want him to have a false expectation.
Chances are very high that he'll say this is fine and not even what he was considering.

And on the nerves thing...
All guys are nervous when having this sort of experience with another guy for the first time, and it will pass. The best thing to do to combat this is to edge for an hour or two before you're due to meet. This will make you hornier than hell and you'll think less about being nervous than you will about getting your cock out with another guy. Also have a drink or two. But don't go overboard.

Size only matters to a very small minority. And they're forever missing out on some extremely erotic experiences because of it. That's their loss.
The vast majority have no requirements when it comes to cock size, and I'll bet my right ball that your straight mate won't care in the slightest either.

Even Jelly Sweets Love a Good Wank!

THIS naughty jelly baby has certainly found his mojo - and he's getting up to ALL SORTS.

The two-inch pink sweet - in the shape of a naked man holding his midget gems - popped up in a pack of pick'n'mix.

Lyz Parker, 23, found him in a bag of Candy King she got at Tesco Home Plus in Staines, Middlesex.

She said: "When I opened the bag I screamed so loudly the whole office came running over. I couldn't believe my eyes."

Lyz, from Camberley, Surrey, called Candy King but at first they thought it was a prank call. The firm is now investigating, and said yesterday: "Clearly this is not part of Candy King's assortment."

Tesco added: "We expect better behaviour from our jelly sweets. We'll raise it with the supplier."

So I know what you're thinking... when does some sneaky Sweet maker pop a pair of wanking buddies in there?

Well, the B8M8 Network has someone on the inside...

That tired old "You're not straight if..." argument

Just thought I'd share a recent post I made to the LPSG (Large Penis Support Group) Forum in response to a thread where straight guys were offering to let another guy suck them off. As usual it descended into one group screaming about "you're no longer straight if..." So, I had to respond. lol

Oh I love this debate.

All the people who yell "you're not straight if..." are always completely ignorant of the FACT that sexual labels were INVENTED BY MAN.
Before Hitler the idea of homosexuality had never been verbalized. It was created by a humanitarian author attempting to combat Hitler's views on men who have sex with men.
Prior to that it was accepted that many men had fetishes (though they were not described as that) for sexual acts and physical attributes relating to other men, and they still married and had children. It wasn't widely discussed, and it wasn't considered an important issue by most.
Women had their loving and attentive husbands, kids had their fathers, and men had their families and their "close male friends".
It's how the ancient Greeks did it. It's how most civilizations did it up until this creation of the sexually segmented society.

No other species on Earth segregates or defines on the basis of a sexual act, and it is now commonly accepted that all animals experience same-sex events just as Humans do. They don't have other members of their species dictating to them what that makes them.

The fact is, you can enjoy cock and not be gay. A fetish for one aspect of male anatomy or sexual act does not dictate who a person falls in love with or what OTHER PEOPLE have the imagined right to call them.

Millions of men who have female partners and completely heterosexual lifestyles have a fetish for cock, ejaculation, masturbation... It's probably right up there with a boob fetish. It's just not talked about because of this fake label scenario we all live under.

I long for the day when we finally destroy this gay/bi/straight insanity and just live by what makes us happy. Screw what other people think it "makes you". It doesn't make you any different to who you already are.
And when other people (who really have no right to be telling you what or who you are) start to shove you into a little box just like theirs, just walk away knowing you're more intelligent than they are.

The Cock Column - "How do I turn a straight buddy into a wank buddy?"

I spoke, and you answered!
I did say that if you would like me to offer my thoughts on any dilemma, I'd gladly oblige. And here we are already. Good times!
And this is probably one of the most common situations I think I could ever discuss... Great opportunity.

The following was received by email (luke@bloketoys.co.uk - thanks to Conran of BlokeToys for setting this up for me!)

"I'm 24, bisexual and out. I love cock, but I don't like the gay scene. I have very little interest in anal sex, and all gay guys want is to fuck me, or me fuck them. I can't stand gay clubs. The music, the pretentious attitude, the fakery... I'm good in a pub.
It's so hard to find other guys who are interested in cock, but don't expect anal.
And that brings me to my best mate.
He's straight (although I think he's more bi than he's wiling to admit). He's married, butch and rugged. And the hottest guy I ever met! He drives me crazy. He knows I'm Bi and he seems to have no problem with that at all. But he makes comments now and then about wanking and says things that don't make much sense for a straight guy. Example: he'll say something derogatory or demanding and I'll respond with "suck my fat one" and he'll immediately say "get it out then". He told me once that he wanked with other guys years ago. Last year he told me that his (then) Girlfriend had given him permission to explore with other guys. How the hell did they get onto that discussion?


In my mind he's trying to tell me he's interested in some limited cock play.
What do you think, and what do you think I should do about it?"

This is so common it's unreal.
And for a start, when he says "get it out then" I would! It's perfect. It allows you to seem daring, brave and open, and it gives him what he wants: a look at another guys dick!
First off, you're not alone in hating the gay scene. There are millions of us out there who love cock and hate the idea of the labels and all the trappings that come with them. You don't have to live by those rules, but occasionally you might have to delve into that world to satisfy some needs. I'm sorry to say it, but most people are ignorant about male sexuality, they adhere to the three labels as if they're religious doctrine, and they believe that you have to play by those stereotypes too.
And, anal play can be fun. I'm not suggesting you have to accept a cock up there, but there are anal toys that will find your prostate and please you immensely. So don't give up on the idea entirely, because to do so you'd be missing out on some immense orgasms. You don't have to like anal sex with a guy to appreciate your prostate, but I almost guarantee that once you've had an anal toy designed for the purpose up there and pleasuring your prostate you'll be hooked - on toys at least.
Back to your mate...
The guy knows your Bi, and he's making suggestive statements to get your interest. Basically, when he's horny and he has no other options, he's testing the waters to see if there's some action open to him. It's the idea that does it for him.
Then when his missus is around he has no need for a fantasy because his sexual needs are already satiated. Rest assured that he's horny for cock though. He doesn't understand it any more than the millions of others out there who neglect to notice that the labels are man-made.
Nature doesn't adhere to man-made labels and categories.

He has a desire to see cock. Possibly to touch it. Maybe even to suck it. He just doesn't understand how this can fit into his heterosexuality as decided by society. The fact is that it can, and it does for millions of men. It's a fetish, a small deviation from what we commonly accept. It could be driven by competition, a fetish for cock itself, a fetish for masturbation, a fetish for cum... who knows. No one is so simple as to be solely attracted to only the restricted attributes and accepted ideas suited to any sexual label. We all have quirks, and a fetish for cock and wanking is probably up there with the fetish for big boobs and lesbian action. It's just not accepted as a suitable fetish for heterosexual men.

What can you do about it?
First and foremost; if this guy is a really close friend that you couldn't do without, tread very carefully. Make sure that before you try anything you know that you could stop if you had to. By that I mean you shouldn't go into this expecting things to be limited to your imaginings. What if you fell in love? What if he did?
You need to make sure that you could take this to a point and then be sensible if things don't work out the way you then want them to.
I started wanking with a close straight friend a few years ago, and we work well still because we don't expect anything from each other. I'm happy to see him go home to his partner after we've had a great wanking session and I don't feel sad about it. We're best mates, and I love him as a friend. Could you do that? Even if you end up feeling more for him?
If you're sure you can separate your sexual friendship from an emotional tie then go for it.
He clearly has sporadic interest in cock, so with a little careful timing you could indeed turn this guy into a regular wank buddy.

Here is what I'd do...

Suggest a blokes trip. Summer is around the corner so book a festival or just a camping trip. It seems he has a high sex drive, so a day away from the missus and he'll probably be close to climbing the walls for some action. Have plenty of beer around. Not hard for a blokes camping trip. Have porn handy; it helps that you're bi, you'll need straight porn to get off to with your buddy. A good starter is some adult playing cards!
Then you need to create the scenario and see his response.
Think creatively to make a scenario happen...
If I was camping with a straight mate I'd suggest playing cards one night. Have a few beers and let him enjoy the pussy on the cards for a while.
I'd make sure he's closer to my tent than I am, then suggest he put some music on. But you've left the CD player in your tent. Ask him to retrieve it.
But oops! You've "accidentally" left your hardcore porn mag just laying there in the open.

If he's a little drunk (not too drunk mind you), he'll probably either bring the mag out with him, which gives you both a chance to move things onto wanking, or he'll pretend he didn't see it and probably ask to borrow it later.
If he does the latter, you need to stand your ground and be brave, and suggest you share it.

The other option is that he'll ignore the mag, ignore the porn, ignore any opportunities and retreat to his tent later to beat-off alone. If that's the case you're probably never likely to wank with the guy.

The most important thing is not to remind him at all about sexuality. Never mention sexuality to a straight guy you're hoping to wank with. Ever.
It's the Grim Reaper of Mutual Masturbation. It will immediately kill any chance you have of getting anywhere with him. Discussions about bisexuality, curiosity, or stigma will only remind him that what he wants to do with a guy is not conducive to what society expects of a heterosexual male.

The other option, and one less likely to succeed, is that you invite him over for a beer and casually suggest that he choose a film to watch, all the while knowing you've left a porn DVD in the player. Make an excuse and leave the room while he "discovers" your porn, and judge his response. While it's a common method, it might not work if he's had no time away from the missus.

Incidentally, I have another close male heterosexual friend I'd love to turn into a wank buddy. And we are going to Download Festival in June, so I'm planning my scenario.
It might work out, it might not. There really are plenty of fish in the sea.

To increase your chances of finding a guy to wank with, visit the B8M8 Network, there are now over 400 members on there, gay, bi and straight, looking for other guys to share a good wank with.

Please update us when you've attempted to get your straight guy wanking with you. I'd love to know what worked and how it all happened. I'm sure readers would too.

Readers: If you have a question or dilemma, let me know as luke@bloketoys.co.uk, and I'll try me hardest to offer some words of wisdom.

The Cock Column - "How do I Cum More?"

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Introducing -The Cock Column

Every now and then I become somewhat of an agony aunt.
I tend to have a bit of knowledge when it comes to cock discussion, and guys pick up on that.
I write in a lot of forums and I'm generally considered the "go-to guy" when one of my mates has a dick or sex related question.

I don't mind lending my time to guys to answer questions, after all, I get to talk to guys about their dicks!

So I thought I'd share some of my pearly words of wisdom through my blog when the opportunity arises. I'll label each of them as "The Cock Column" followed by the subject or question to be discussed.

If there's something you'd like to ask, or something you think I should talk about, let me know! Leave a comment or send me a message.

The B8M8 News

373 members and counting!

After only a few months on line (I think it's been about three months?) we now have a whapping 373 eager members getting to know each other!



This is in no small part thanks to the guys promoting the group in their other online activities, adding a link in their forum posting signatures, mailing their mates, mentioning it in other groups and generally getting the word out there.

Members are communicating, and although the forum could do with a little more discussion, guys are actually meeting up!

That's one of the things I was concerned about when I started this group. I know there are plenty of other groups out there, often dead after a little while, with members suggesting they'd like to meet up and never actually getting there.

But last week, one of our most popular members - LondonWankBuddy - planned a pub visit for a few interested guys. And you know what? Five other members in the area turned up!
I couldn't make it unfortunately, but I plan to keep an eye on this and jump in when my life calms down just a tad.
That is after all one of the reasons I built B8M8, to create opportunities to find other guys interested in getting their cock out for some stroking fun. But that's not the only reason, I wanted to create a place where other guys get to build and enjoy the same great friendship experiences I have.

The result of the meeting was that five guys who all love to stroke their dick found other guys who love it too, and like to share.


One of the questions raised was how to recognize others, and I'm now working on the solution. It was something I began working on months ago when I started the group.

In Other News

On my Male/Male Mutual Masturbation Blog I retold the story of a straight friend who experienced a Fleshlight party last year. He loved the experience of stroking his cock with a bunch of guys before having a cum-shooting contest.

I got some mail about this post, so I thought as we all love the fleshlight so much, I might plan something similar for the B8M8 Network members.

Stay Tuned!